Mark Manson aims to share „a counter-intuitive approach to living a good life“ with his readers. We’ve been told that positive thinking is the key to a happy and rich life. But, let’s be honest. Being positive all the time about everything, giving a fuck about everything, that is just pretty exhausting. You can’t keep it up 24/7. At least I can’t. I have stuff in my life, I really give a fuck about and a lot of stuff I shouldn’t. But not giving a fuck is not easy either. That is one of the reasons the title made me very curious and I just had to buy „The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck“.
Mark Manson advices us to re-examine what is really important for us and in our lives. And he does that with funny anecdotes and a fresh and honest perspective. He show’s us how he found out what he values most and encourages us to do so too, to face our fears and not only accept but embrace our faults as opportunity for change.
„True happiness occurs only when you find the problems you enjoy having and enjoy solving.“The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck, Mark Manson, Page 32
The book is really funny but also full of profound case studies and analogies. And it is an easy read. He doesn’t hide his ideas in complicated and long sentences and studies. He says it right on point and in an „In your face“ kinda way. The book is full of very
„The more you desperately want to be rich, the poorer and unworthy you feel, regardless of how much money you actually make. The more you desperately want to be sexy and desired, the uglier you come to see yourself, regardless of your actual physical appearance. The more you desperately want to be happy and loved, the lonelier and more afraid you become, regardless of those who surround you.“The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck, Mark Manson, Page 9
It is a fun read, a bit sarcastic, a bit satirical, but also very well-thought-out. It tackles nowadays problems like the presences of „The perfect life“ via social media, which everyone seems to live. „The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck“ is kinda like a slap in your face, to show you that:
„[…]shit is fucked, and we have to live with it.“The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck, Mark Manson
And shows us how to do it. I learned some really good lessons or got reminded of them, here are my 6 most important lessons learned:
- Desiring a more positive experience is itself a negative experience.
- The single greatest thing you can do for your happiness is accepting your experiences of life as being great and wonderful, the good and the bad experiences.
- You can choose what to give a fuck about.
- Life is full of problems. You have to decide what sort of problems you want to tackle.
- Most of us are just average at things we do, we just have to accept it.
- It is not you versus the world. It is mostly you versus yourself.